Ok, can I join in on this...I am pretty new to DB, but loving it so far...my major 180's so far are simply stopping the conflict...but here's the one I will have fun with. H is coming to town in a couple weeks to visit kids, and I know he is short cash, so I invited him to stay here. My first reaction was, no way, he chose this, he can stay in hotel...let him see what it is like to lose his family...but then I realized that I could do a couple of things - maybe have some good quality time together, I will keep it casual, I lost 20 pounds and am working out, so I will just happen to make coffee in my shortie PJ's (the new very sexy ones he has never seen, maybe he will wonder why I bought these?), and I will drive OW crazy knowing he is staying with me, so maybe she will slip up - as soon as she tries to control his behavior, he will start to pull away from her!
