Hopeful
Thx for the info. sorry to hijac a thread, this was a fun thread so youall please let us know the fun 180s

Youre probably a babe (see below)
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Appearance- H and I were having financ. diff. and so I was not taking care of myself like I wanted. Of course, H still did. So despite the finan. sitch, I have been going to a good salon to get my hair cut, I went and bought clothes that I really like (had to as I lost so much weight)Effective with H.
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Men are accused of fixing. STBX just wanted validation
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Communication- I have changed how I communicate. I used to think I listened, which I guess I did, but I did not validate and I always tried to "fix things". I have become good at validating, at not taking things personal,etc. VERY effective with H.
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Kinda did below was more into the "You did this to me" self pity rap. Good tip, it's true in my case, I'll use it.
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Regarding the sitch of H abandoning me, having an A, etc. Instead of being destroyed by it...have thanked him for helping me to stop by freight train life and to reflect upon myself and this great opportunity. Another shocker to H.
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OK Dis is what I am working on
* Moving out so STBX can move in with D11 so miminize her trauma. STBX has 12+ yrs of outstanding parenting experience I've seen so I do not base actions on one incident.

* Got D11 a gituar and had one I gave SS worked on. Will get one myself and reconnect with my old early 70s music side.

* Try to say "Hi" to at least 10 Gals a day. Old young ect I do not care. Take it as a numbers game. Just looking for a friendly howdy back so I can pick up tips to relating to 50% of the better looking population.

Some past ones did not work either however I was swimming uphill. Don't know if you don't try. THx again






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