No hill for a swimmer... You don't have to spend alot of $ to start looking more the way you'd like. I imagine you already have a nice haircut and are shaven...being your a military man. To soften your look and look sharp... I suggest you really start paying attn. to what you see others wearing for one. Go downtown and check out what other men are wearing. Go to the mall, or airport, etc. to just start getting some ideas. Sometimes the small details can make a difference. And try to get a few key items that you can use to make different outfits. It looks sharp when a guy tucks in his shirt, wears a belt, polished shoes, etc. but I bet you already do that. Do you have some nice khaki slacks that you can dress up or wear more casual? Or are you looking for business professional wear? Check out Men's Wearhouse. They are pretty good. They will help you get some ideas. And try the stuff on. Then just tell them you want to think about it for a day. Also, go check out the nice department stores to see the styles and colors. I was surprised when I found some really nice 2nd hand store that had some very nice things, some with the tag still on. Check those places out. I know, not used to it...but what's the worst that happens...you don't find anything. Also, try some different colors than you typically wear. Or, maybe if you really want to try out something new and bold for yourself...put yourself out there and go to a gay bar and find some nice guys who dress like you are interested, and ask them to help you out. They would probably looove it. Ask them to be your queer eyes for you! My experience with gay men is they are alot of fun and love to help others out with fashion. Be upfront. Say "hey, I'm straight, but I'm looking for some help from someone with a keener eye for fashion. Tell them, I want to look like a metrosexual!" I don't know if that is intimidating to you to try, but you may just be doing something different and be surprised. My experience is that most gay men won't hit on men who aren't interested. Though they may be a little flirty, but hey, they flirt with women too. Of course, I am sterotyping and not everyone fits a sterotype. I just think you may have alot of success and some fun and be really trying out something different! Also, start checking different personal products...use styling gel, try out some self tanner or something. Im no fashion guru, just my ideas. I bet there must be some websites for men's fashion too.
