Thank you molliew. Thank you. Printing it out. I'm going to try and follow you're advice to a T. The hard part for me is that I often feel better if I touch her, and often she doesn't, so that is particularly difficult for me to resist. I also tend to be the talker in our relationship, but that has been a problem for us, too, so I'm working on being a quiet man for now.
The situation is we're together all this week without the children, until Saturday. We sleep together sometimes (when she doesn't go sleep on the couch) and spend our evenings together, too. So the dates we'll have will be followed by going home together and resuming family routines.
Patience, patience, patience. It's difficult, but I think I can do it.