Actually, from a purely technical standpoint, neither one of us had an affair if you define an affair as a sexual relationship. I know I was playing with fire with the OW but at the time it seemed to shock my wife into action. As I said, we were both sure that the weekend was just for show. Something we could check off as having tried. You know, counseling, check, weekend retreat, check. We've done everything, we should divorce. After I came home in the morning that day she screamed at me, "Don't you want to go? Because I DO!"
Things really aren't bad between us now, considering that in September she dropped the "love you, not IN LOVE with you" bomb. I just feel that if we don't continue to move the relationship forward with concrete steps, that I will not know what is going through her head and she will someday drop the bigger bomb on me in typical WAW style. When we spend time working on the relationship, we are showing that we want it to succeed.
Gone the carvings and those who left their mark. Gone the kings and queens, now only the rats hold sway.
