I would say to her Sometimes I will say it your way and sometimes I will say it my way, if that's ok.
I would be sure to not say anything that offends her, but as JJ said the other day, most of the HDH's on this board are good guys who love their wives and would not intentionally offend them anyway.
She will have to stretch what she finds an acceptable way to say it. It won't *always* be phrased in a "I need you emotionally" way and, if that is what's up your wife's alley, you'd be foolish to always phrase it in a cruder and more lustful way.
One thing that has worked for me is to say my desirous things when I am not physically near him. "You look sexy right now." etc, when I'm across the room. Saying it when we are wrapped up in a hug seems to up the pressure. Maybe you could state "I want to ML later" and give her a nice smile and then go on with your day. Light and sexy. I'm sure she doesn't like the conflict-laden mess that has become your sex life anymore than you do.
