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Maybe change, "I'm horny" to "I want you" or "I want to be with you"....Like HP said, try it for a week. She may find some humor in it anyway....




yes, I agree that I need to express my needs more often and more honestly. We have even talked (with counselor) about the fact that it is better to say "I'm in the mood" rather than "are you in the mood?" - the first statement owns your feelings while the second statement sets the partner up for possible failure.

The problem, is that just like Hairdog mentions in his thread... my wife has the rulebook in HER head and does not care to share it with me. One day she tells me that when I'm in the mood I should say "I want to spend time with you..." because it sounds more loving than "I'm horny" - so, guess what... the third time I use the "I want to spend time with you..." she tells me that I'm just using a line and don't mean it... WTF?