yes, I have read the 5 LL book. She read the first chapter or two. She even told me yesterday that her "cup was not full" and that she needed "words of affirmation" from me. It was real hard to step up to the plate. I too had been through a rough day and she had been pretty snappy the day before... now, I'm supposed to jump in and start praising her for what a great person she is??? I tried to get her to specifically tell me what she needed from me to "fill her cup" but she got irritated that I had to ask...
I end up doing this crazy dance where I'm trying to give her attention without appearing patronizing. It can be very difficult and stressful... it makes me just want to go get back in the car and go back to work...
After an hour her mood changed and she was happy enough that she actually pinched me on the behind (a shocker).
We are currently reading another book that focuses on communication and attending a once a week group discussion on what we have read.
I digress though. The main purpose of this thread was to vent the frustration I feel when I have sexual urges towards my wife and know that I would come across as a pervert if I were to voice them. Sometimes I truly feel I am living my life all canned up. I have only exposed 25% of my sexual appetite in 19+ years of knowing her... I just wish for once I could be 100+ out in the open and be accepted as I am.
