it seems to be a common thread among HD people that they are constantly feeling like perverts because they desire to have sex with their mates. WHEN I can actually get my wife to talk about sex she has questioned me about WHY sex is important. As if she can find out something that is missing in my life (not sex) and replace it - thus curing me of this illness. Like she is going to discover I was locked in a box as a kid and fix THAT problem which will suddenly make me stop insist on sex...
Why can they not understand that we find sex enjoyable? That it is a way for us to bond and connect to our mate in a way that only THEY can provide us?
We just moved into a new house. The shower in the master bathroom is TWICE the size of our last. I would love for my wife to take a shower with me. Her excuse in the past (17 years) has always been that the "shower is too small and crowded...not comfortable" - well, that excuse is gone now... so, do I ask her? NOPE. I know she will just have another excuse and I will get pissed.
Being in a new house also has me feeling some teenage desire to "break-in" every room in the house like we are on some marathon obstacle course. Will I ask her? NOPE. I already know the answer to that one...
And on top of all that... we are coming up on our wedding anniversary. Last year, I setup a luxury hotel room out of town with no kids. What did I get? I got an earful of grief from her about how I "set this up so I could get laid" and "all the pressure I'm putting on her just totally kills any mood" - so, did we have sex on our anniversary? NOPE. It's been almost two weeks since we had sex. Her cycle is about every 20-30 days. So, I'm not going to initiate because I want to improve my chances of getting lucky on our anniversary night. I think of it as romantic. I think of it as the best possible night to make love. She just gets stressed. If I were to initiate before our anniversary I could definately not count on getting another shot at it ON our anniversary.
I'm just venting here...okay? so, while it will be nice to hear all the normal... been there, done that from everyone... I'm not really looking for any major solutions. There is so much stress going on in our lives right now I am definately not "setting boundaries" or "rocking the boat" just yet...
