I understand what you are saying now. I guess instead of making those my goals, I just started doing those things. I have been less critical, Not been nagging. I have been more upbeat, understanding. Been thinking before speaking kind of thing. And when I have done those things, I have seen a difference in the way we communicate. It has been way more pleasant.
And thank you for the encouragement on me feeling like the second choice...it's hard to think of it otherwise, but you are right, if he chooses to be with me, than I am not second.
