1) My H to ask me to move back home 2) My H to show me more attention/affection 3) My H to end R with OW 4) My H and I to communicate more effectively and strengthen our marriage
Some thoughts for you about your goals:
Except partly for the last one, these goals are all about H doing something... think in terms of what you can do, rather than him, as goals for yourself, things you can do and therefore have control over, that may lead to prompt H to do what you'd like to see him do.
And break down the goals to smaller realistic and acheivable steps.
For example, "I will not be critical when we speak", "I will consider his viewpoint", "I will be more empathic", instead of the very vague "H and I to communicate more effectively".
