Quote: Just curious...what is your H's attiude wrt the kids? My H also has strong dependency needs, but he is trying to set examples of autonomy, discipline and responsibility for the kids, so he is sort of growing up with them.
I guess our situations are similar. My H is better with the kids in this regard than he is himself. It boggles my mind that he frequently tells me that I shouldn't accept behavior from my son that he exhibits towards me himself. The other day he actually got on my case for accepting emotionally overreactive behavior from my Type 4 sister that is exactly like behavior he exhibits towards me only his is worse. I am better able to tolerate this behavior from my sister because I know she is likely to overreact but a minute later say "I'm sorry I overreacted." because she knows that she has a bad temper but tries to work on it.
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