HP and Lou... Thanks for the comments on the WOA. I resent the fact that he does these AOS and then looks for praise when I feel he's doing stuff that just needs to be done. I feel put in the role of mom when I want him to be da man. Then I feel sorry for myself because I want to feel appreciated too. Our dynamics are that H was the oldest but his mother's favorite...he had conflicts with his dad which pushed him out of his house. I was the youngest and was babied by both my parents. Not sure how that fits in but I'll throw it out there to my analytic buddies.
Since this is a solution oriented board, I'm thinking what I can do is work on the WOA by responding to him in more of a womanly way...say the words and give him a sexy hug or something. That way, I am not being his mom and not being a baby whining for MY WOA.
