RE JJ "I know I am high-maintenance but what am I supposed to do about it?". That statement coupled with the big sister having to hang up his coat sort of makes me think he is stuck back in first grade where certain peopld "did certain things" for you because you were an inexperienced kid and they were much more advanced than you.
I was the last kid in the family and I had to break my big sister attitudes when dating BB. Fast foward to now and I have to break my parent child mode with my D34. Sometimes it is me and sometimes she still wants me to be dad while she plays D. It's not a big problem but some habits die slowly.
In Mr W's mind, are you sort of his big sister in some ways?