I really don't have any problem with administering WOA. I think I do it whenever I honestly can. That is why I am saying I don't think that is the problem. I am using the "rule of thumb" that if something seems easy to do it probably isn't the problem. It would be MUCH more difficult for me to offer my H honest criticism on a regular basis than for me to increase the pats on the back.
My MIL told me the following anecdote about my H. When he was a child they had a little coat rack in the hallway. His sister who was just a year older than him would come in the house and hang up her coat. Little MrW would come in the house and act like the coatrack was just too high for him and put on a little show of not being able to reach until finally his older sister would hang his coat up for him. The fact that my MIL thought this was an amusing anecdote may give further clues as to why MrW is MrW.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
