Quote: I will say this though: It feels good to compliment him. It felt awkward and wrong at first but now that I am in the groove, I feel good when I do it and he lights up like one of my kids.
HP... I am having some trouble getting started on this track, for 2 reasons...first off, H is not one to give me WOA, so it's hard to make the first move, and secondly, I feel like I am treating him like a child when I give him an ego pump; I don't feel I should boost him the way I do my kids.
H asked me to meet him for lunch today and I could tell he was having a hard day and needed some support. I listened to what was going on at work and was generally supportive, warm and kind, but I know he would have benefited from hearing some special words. I just couldn't do it. Instead I went on and on with the convo ( which was mainly about the kids), and he joined along, but something wasn't right---he seemed dysphoric.
I guess I don't want to coach or baby him, especially when I am needy myself and have learned to activate my own inner cheerleader. But maybe my POV needs some fixin'.
