Quote: Was the ego building stuff just MrW being MrW or is there something you can work with there? Does he like WOA?
I wish I could believe that I was a real "ball-buster" and by easing off or upping the WOA I could improve the situation. However, I really don't think that is the problem. I think the real problem is that I am generally too much of a "ball-coddler" due to my tendency towards conflict avoidance. For instance, I've never complained to my H that he needed to get a better job and I have supported him and not complained when he has quit jobs that he didn't like. I don't nag him about mowing the lawn or fixing things around the house even though he nags me about various household chores quite frequently. I frequently do things like serve him his food in front of the TV or fetch him a beer etc.. Actually, I think the thing I said that struck him most forcefully during our fight was "Maybe you are just too high maintenance for me.".
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
