Quote: You both have shown a lot of openness and honesty in this latest round, and you're getting him to reveal some deep, core issues.
It's interesting to me that on some level I always "knew" what he resented in our relationship (my weight and my expectation that he earn a living out there in the cruel world) but I didn't want to "believe" that he resented these things because I would lose respect for him if I did. I've found that now that I am coming to "believe" that these really were his, IMO, lame *ss issues, I have lost some respect for him but I'm still capable of loving him.
Quote: Good job of HOY while he was crucibling.
Perhaps I should write Schnarch a note about the usefulness of a couple 7&7s when dealing with a spouse in the crucible. I found that the alcohol gave me a rather helpful "que sera sera" attitude.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
