Learning to Trust Myself

[Dmsw4]

I like Anna's suggestions. Sorry I didn't respond to your questions, I think I missed a whole page there--gee and I thought I was keeping up.

One thing I want to say, I don't want to offend anyone, but I have noticed that the men in my life tend to give this kind of answer to my problem, "Leave him." Now, while this is concise and to the point, it's just not always that easy. That said, you'll know....you will know.

I was thinking, along Anna's line, what would happen if you ASKED him to take the kids to day care? "Hon, do you think you could take the kids to daycare tomorrow (or Tuesday, or Friday, or whatever)? I can pick them up, but it would be really great if you could drop them off." Now, I'm not in your shoes, so I'm not sure how this has gotten to be such a big thing, but I know it is for you. It's a power struggle, a control thing--for both of you. You're a great mother Heather, just give yourself a little credit.

As for when the lights go out, stock up on flashlights. If the toilet overflows, drag out the towels and get a plunger. You can do anything you set your mind to Heather. I know that if I can trim hedges and work the weed whipper, you can grill a steak.