He seems to care more about how my parents feel about him than about how *I* feel about him....go figure.
I have a couple of major questions for him. Like, what is the real issue here? Is it that he truly is concerned what my parents think of him, i.e. that it hurts him to not have their acceptance? In which case, doesn't he realize that *not* staying with them is only going to make matters worse? Or is he mostly just concerned with the idea that they are going to try to talk me into doing whatever makes me happy, even if that means divorce? And further, if he's so concerned about divorce, why is that? Is it because he really loves me and wants to make this work or is it because he doesn't want to be separated from his children? I don't want to be separated from my children either, but if he honestly cannot say that he still loves me....I don't know that staying together is the best thing. Someday my children are going to have lives of their own and I want to be in a position to actively be a part of their lives and them a part of mine. I want to be in a healthy, thriving relationship, not still battling this crap out at age 50 whereby I am still not at a place in my life to be able to offer them sound behavior models and advice. I guess I have some questions to ask huh?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
