Quote: He said you know the show "Fear Factor", they eat tons of bugs. Fairfax....Fear Factor.....similar enough to have him thinking that they were the same thing. Kids are so funny!
Indeed. My kids laughed and laughed the first time they saw the sign for Dumfries (you know, Dumb Fries).
The kissing thing freaks me out. I can see wanting to punish you at first, but it wouldn't take long before I'd want to "reestablish my turf", so to speak. I wouldn't want Om to be the last guy who kissed you. Feel free to give H a loud "WHAT ARE YOU THINKIN' IN YO' HEAD?!?" from me.
As for acting "as if", I think the example in DR (or close enough) is that MDW was returning from a trip. Her H had been upset with her for going on the trip. As she was flying back home she wondered what kind of reception she'd get; would he be cool and angry or would he be happy to see her? If she knew in advance she'd tailor her approach accordingly. But she didn't know, so she decided to act as if he was going to be happy to see her. She was smiling and bubbly coming off the plane. And he was, indeed, happy to see her.
So in your case, just act as if his gestures were genuine baby steps. You can hold some reservations in your mind, but act as if. That doesn't mean acting how you used to; just act the way you would if you were convinced these were positive, non-manipulative actions by H.
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