Heather I have been reading thru all your posts and good on you for sharing all that with everyone. You obviously were very lost with who you were and what you were about when you met H. I do sense alot of insecurities with you though. I hope H has not allowed you to doubt yourself that much but it seems that he has. You beloved kids are only 2 & 4 and yes while impressionable they are young enough that anything can be changed and they will not even remember as adults but if certain patterns continue they will become part of their life. All i am saying is you can have any type of influence you want to have with your kids as they are young just stick at it. You have achieved such wonderful things especially when you look at who you were many years ago when you met H. You are to be congratulated at what you have achieved but don't ever feel you have to put up with something as you don't if your not happy the future is yours to mould however you want with or without your H and that is your decision to make nobody else's. Please look at all you have achieved and strive towards whatever else it is that you want to achieve as you can certainly do it you have proved that....KDU
