Learning to Trust Myself

[heatherg]

Mel~

Dad is just more fun, when he has time with the kids, they PLAY

Maybe I just need to accept this. Come to some calm place in my heart where I can just leave this be. I have really, really stepped up in the playing department, and it could just be that S4 can tell the difference between me and H where I play Star Wars guys with him b/c S4 wants me to and H plays Star Wars guys with him b/c *H* wants to. I'm sure S4 can tell by the level of enthusiasm who really wants to play the most. I try to really want to play Star Wars, but I have to let myself be ok with the fact that I don't really want to play Star Wars guys!!!
H will play 24/7. That's tough too. If I want to try to get in some bonding time, I have to really work at it. I can't just say "S4, let's go do this or that" b/c he's usually playing with Daddy and if he's not, he knows he will be in a little bit. There are probably plenty of aspects of this situation that I blame H for when really it could just be the way the cookies crumble, ya know?
This is definitely where my head starts to swim though, trying to figure out what's reasonable and what isn't, what's control and what isn't, what S4 truly wants vs what S4 does to make H happy, etc. It's tough to sort it all out. Thanks for your help with sorting through those things with me.

Maybe we can learn something from our Hs and try to play a little more, but then, who would clean the house?

I hear ya!! It's quite the dilemma isn't it??? I'd hire a maid if only she would have a place to put things "away" to. That's our problem, our house is too small. So, unless the maid can build a couple of closets while she's there, I'm SOL for now.

Thanks Mel. BTW, I always thought Mellanie was your real name