Heather, this is all so deep and insightful. I can see bits and pieces in my own life. I've lost such a huge part of me along the way. I don't know when it happened, but through blow ups and disappointment and criticism, I learned how to be a good housewife, but a really bad lover. I think that part of me was just killed off.
And, about not recognizing the abuse. My friends saw it, they saw it, but I didn't. I made excuses for him, so many times.
I just wanted to let you know how I appreciate your candor. It really is very gripping.
Kiss the babies and give yourself a hug.
Mel (who will one of these days tell you my real name, when I find the real me, maybe)
Each experience in life has formed me, become part of me, made me stronger.
