Learning to Trust Myself

[Burgbud]

I don't like the way H is treating me, but when you hurt someone, you don't get to control the way they react.

Was he not like this before?

If not for our babies, I think the answer would be obvious to me. I love my husband. There is no person on this earth I'd rather be with. But not at the expense of my own self respect. If not for our babies, my solution would be to leave. Leave with the hopes that some time apart would serve us well in the long run. But it's about more than me, more than us. I don't want to battle with my H over custody of my children and god knows what else. I don't want to be the one who takes them away from their daddy. In beginning such an endeavor I could forget about being able to fix anything between us as things would only continue to get worse and worse as we both fought for custody of our kids, each believing we're in the best position to have decision making authority. It would be a nightmare.

I like your answer. But I want to make sure you understand I wasn't directing that at you. It's directed at the man, particularly to a man who wants his wife to solve her own problems without him having to get involved. And it seems to apply to a man who doesn't think his wife should rely on him as well.