Quote: Can you think of a tactful way to bring it up without making it sound like I'm stirring up trouble?
If he's determined to see it as stirring up trouble he will. I think bringing it up calmly with emphasis on S4 is the best you can do: "H, I'm still concerned about S4's manners. When I greet him politely I expect him to return a polite greeting. Do you agree?" And if he agrees he should be able to back you up when necessary in a "Do what your mom says" way, rather than a way that makes it seem S4 has to do what dad says.
Quote: ...he sent the message that he would not support me in any way. That includes with the kids.
Wow. At some level he sees leverage and control as the only way to keep you. Even at the expense of the kids.
Quote: He said "That's right, don't rely on me for anything."
Reminds me of something I read recently (guess what book? ) I'll paraphrase it like this: if your woman can't rely on you for anything, why should she be with you? It's so blindingly obvious you'd think even us dumba55es would figure it out on our own. But apparently some of us have to read it in books after being slapped upside the head by life. I feel bad for him and I feel bad for you. Something's gotta snap in that guy.
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) I'll paraphrase it like this: if your woman can't rely on you for anything, why should she be with you? It's so blindingly obvious you'd think even us dumba55es would figure it out on our own. But apparently some of us have to read it in books after being slapped upside the head by life. I feel bad for him and I feel bad for you. Something's gotta snap in that guy. 