Quote: H thinks I blew it when he tried to tell me likes to look at beautiful women and I didn't react well. So, therefore, he can't talk to me about anymore. I guess he just doesn't get it that *I* want to be his fantasy.
Gosh, you and my wife have the same writers. Pornography played some roll in our relationship too. My wife actually enjoyed it from time to time and I compromised and obtained the stuff that she liked. But on many occasions, I began to rely on it too often and I heard the "I want to be your fantasy" speech.
God, how I wished I would have paid more attention to that now.
I've read your earlier posts and I wanted to point out that, at least for me, videos and such were just enhancements to our lovemaking, not the main show. My wife often used 'marital aids' (ha) to enhance her own pleasure and I always enjoyed that she was finding ways to get into our lovemaking more.
Now that my wife has fallen in love with someone else, I see that my interest in videos and such played not the largest roll, but a significant roll in her disappointment in me. Believe me, it wasn't worth it.
I'd like to point out too that I don't think that men like to look at this stuff not because they find the other women prettier, or sexier or more voluptuous, but because they are fascinated by the mystery. It is the 'piece of strange' quotient.
I know that probably doesn't make you feel better, but perhaps it may clarify some things.
