Quote: I'm telling you I want to be your fantasy and that I'm willing to listen and really get into it and you tell me to figure it out on my own......
Wow Heather. This guy is determined to cut off his nose to spite his face (to spout cliches). At first I read that and thought "My GOD that sounds familiar!" but realized that whenever I told my H I wanted to be his fantasy, he'd just look uncomfortable and say "But I really don't HAVE any fantasies!" <sigh>
But I think it's very different with your H because it sounds like he has very well-thought out fantasies but doesn't want to relinquish ANY control to you. He also may not want to be vulnerable to you.
