Quote: So, I think you said somewhere you were going to read "The Emotionally Abusive Relationship"... and what will you do with that knowledge?
He he, you cut right to the heart of it, don't ya?? That's why we love you
I'm still reading "After the Affair". I found the first chapter of that to be very helpful. After the first chapter, that the author talks a lot about childhood experiences and deprivations and how we replay those deprivations out with our partners. My initial reaction to that line of thought is that I don't necessarily buy into it, certainly not to any degree where I could appreciate generalizations on the topic. But I'm sticking with it b/c all in all I think it will be a good read and I will certainly refer back to the first chapter whenever I start to feel like H is being unreasonable so the words can bring me back to where H is emotionally.
So, I haven't started reading the emotionally abusive relationship book yet. My initial goal with reading that book though is how to circumvent the situations that arise between H and me and to learn how not to react/contribute/abuse. I want to take his power away.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
