Things have been quiet at my house. H is out of town for work. He's been gone about two weeks and will be gone up to 6 more weeks. He's been coming home on the weekends to see the kids. We have been getting along ok on the weekends, moments where I can put everything else aside are almost enjoyable. I've been spending my evenings reading. Right now I'm reading After the Affair. It seems to be highly recommended on this board, so I thought I would give it a try. I also picked up the Emotional Abuse book that Chrissy mentioned and Relationship Rescue by good ole Dr Phil. So far, After the Affair has been enlightening. I went to sleep last night and had another dream that H has a "friend" that is helping him through what I have done to our M. Second dream and the weird part is that my subconscious has named this girl "Jen" and that name carried over into the second dream. To my knowledge neither H or I know anyone named Jen. Perhaps I can look forward to a soap opera in my dreams where the characters stay the same and everything seems so real that it actually could be? Geez, lucky me, I can't wait to see the next episode. It's not a good feeling. Our wedding anniversary is coming up. But so is the anniversary of me telling H that I was seeing another man. The two events happened within about a week of one another. With all the ups and downs, does anyone have any thoughts on how to handle the wedding anniversary? We haven't said ILY in months. Maybe just a nonmushy card? Signed "Love, Heather"? Would that be ok?
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
