You're the key to everything else changing. You change first, then the dynamics of relationships opens the way eventually to others changing around you.
The lightbulb just came on. Thank you again, NY.
I made changes for the better and H responded positively, very positively.
I screwed up the last several days and H has reacted very negatively -- he is "having doubts again"
Here is something that I have noticed -- When I have made changes for the better, it has taken H some time to react positively to them. But when I have fallen back to negative behavior, H has reacted almost immediately. So it is important to have patience and give positive changes time to be noticed and then appreciated. Time = weeks, months, years. Not hours or days.
