I meant what I said to my H and he knew it, so he was motivated to finally do something about the situation. I set my boundary and he knew what the consequences would be of not taking some type of action.
GEL
This is so true. I had reached a point where my H knew it wasn't just idle talk anymore and it's amazing how that alone motivated him to finally do something about it. I was pleasantly surprised when he not only agreed to read SSM but actually did read it. I think it was a relief for him to learn that he's not a rarity as far as LD H's go and it removed the weighty spotlight from me as well...suddenly I was no longer in my own little world.
Not that it helps your sitch or makes you feel any better, Pepper, but you and your H are eons ahead of where me and my H were in the sex dept. If I could have gotten sex out of my H twice a month I would have been in heaven. We went for a 10 year stretch without any...no kidding. The few times I tried to initiate discussions about it my H became defensive and it usually ended up in a no-win argument for us both and nothing changed. My point is, I never thought I'd see the day where H and I could talk very frankly about sex...let alone have any. Yet now we're like a couple of newlyweds...in fact it wasn't even this good when we first met. So there's much hope for you and your H. Trust me...if my H could change his tune on this topic...any man can.
