Hi Honeypot - No, it hasn't always been this way. It was about a year ago that I started to get UTIs so I guess I just need to get used to and continue with my preps and try to enjoy S. The washing is one thing that helped to stop the UTIs. I never did this before but now I feel I have to in order to prevent the UTIs. So my H feels dirty like I am washing him off Yes, I do try to do it quickly but if I do it too fast I get a UTI. I have to rinse with soap and warm water. I just think my H is in a sensitive mlc-depressed mode and takes everything personally. I will continue to gently explain the UTIs...Better go grab some water now - ha!

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."