Hi All - My main post is in MLC but I thought this belonged over here.

I have successfully managed my re-current UTIs (holding breath!) but they do interfere with SL. I feel like I have to rush away to the bathroom afterwards and my H seems to take it personally (he is still somewhat depressed/mlc). I have to be real careful how I phase things or he twists it to be about or something wrong with him. Has anyone dealt with UTIs interferring in SL? I also feel like I have to plan things more (drink water before, have a water bottle by the bed side for after, etc.). I don't feel as adventurous anymore; like this has put a damper on our SL.

One other side issue is that during his mlc he shaved his private parts area. This causes discomfort for me (prickly, sore, etc.). I have tried to gently say that this bothers me physically but he takes it personally. Now, he only shaved the bottom area but it still interferes with S for me. How can I gently tell him to quit shaving down there!!! Sorry if this is too blunt but I don't know how else to say all of this

I hope someone has ideas or experience with these issues!

Thanks,
SP

According to the Buddha, praise and blame, gain and loss, pleasure and sorrow may "come and go like the wind," but happiness comes if you can "rest like a great tree in the midst of them all."