Welcome Back. Sorry for the RO, but as you said...maybe she should move out of your house.
Quote: I also am fighting grave concerns that W's issues go far deeper that I had ever imagined (like projecting her dark side onto me all these years), and I'm trying not to despair about her ever changing.
And thus starts the introspection. Carry it a step further...if she doesn't grow/change is she someone you even want? I'm just in the mood today where I question what I'm doing and what everyone else is doing also. Just looking into the crystal ball and saying "if I got my XW back as she is now would it even work?". I sense a little of that in you or maybe despair that her anger issues won't abate.
I'm glad you are focused on yourself. I've started to get back to where I'm focused on myself as well. Trying to put a little distance between myself and XW to give her a chance to think about her single life. Hopefully you are doing the same. Hey, if you think of anything really fun for the fall and winter post it here. I've been looking for something. I'd like to get to Vegas one of these days, but would prefer not going alone.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
