Focusing on the R: Post-D DBing3

[koshka]

Gabe,

Well, I expect a few whacks for this post.

Let's see what I have here in my kit bag. Hmmmm...

You said

Thru all this, I am discouraged.

So I choose to remind you that

I noted that I have found the key to loving/caring for others well - loving and caring for me first. I noted, "If I care for myself well, I will be that much better able to love and meet my partners needs. I'm not sitting aroung feeling sorry for myself. I'm developing myself into a better man, and I'll pass that on to S5."

So you snooped and didn't like what you found. Anyone out there have a link to the post where the LBS snooped and found the WAS writing about their epiphany and plans to seek reconciliation? Please post the links if you have 'em.

It's a roller coaster. W is not snapping at you as she once did, she's not trying to damage your R with S5, in fact, she seems to be working with you on a lot his best interest. You are able to have decent convos. A lot of us aren't able to do even that.

Put this in the long term perspective. How did things look last winter, when you had only your faith and determination, and no signs of reconsideration or even mature parenting from W? The road ahead may be long, but you have come a good distance, personally and in your R.

Thanks,

K