Coming from you that was a compliment indeed. Believe me, I was a slow learner. I was pathetic for a long time but I read incessantly and reflected and suffered through my stupidity for a long time before peace and acceptance descended on me. I was constantly looking for a "why" answer for a long time. I thought I could control this runaway train. Finally I realized that there was just no "why" answer, doo-doo just happens and there was precious little I could do about it. That I could use this time to grow myself and not try to meddle with my out of control WAW.
In a way, I discovered that I needed to have a very Buddhist attitude and just accept the way things are, sort of follow the flow by separating myself from it. Then, I was able to detach. When I did that I could stand by and watch the drama of my WAW and then some clarity came to me. Things got better, not necessarily (but I do think also) with the sitch, but for me to live life on an even keel (not at the level of satisfaction I was used to but manageable). But some days the pain still gnaws on my insides. But it is a dull ache, not a searing knife-wound that I felt for a long time.
But you are ahead of the game. I hope your sitch moves faster than mine.
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
