I'm going to jump in here with a different perspective. Was this type of defensive, accusatory interaction common in the M? Could she still be in the negative mindset of feelings during the M? Is it time for Gabe to do something different?
I also confess to having no experience at this in my current standing. We do not argue, accuse, bring up blame about what happened in the M or accuse anyone of making assumptions. As I said, the M and the D do not exist. We simply have changed the living situation.
I suspect we would all try and defend ourselves against unfair or inaccurate assumptions and then question later if we approached the situation in the best manner. Perhaps this gives us all an opportunity to learn to better evaluate and react.
