Focusing on the R: Post-D DBing3

[Just_Me]

Last night, a bit more occured, when I noted that I was only responsible for 50% of our M problems. W replied, "Oh! Only 50 huh? (sarcastically)." To which I replied, "There are errors of comission and errors of omission. We each had our share."

Did you chuck the DR book out the window? j/k. Hard not to point that stuff out, but you definitely shouldn't if you can help it. Maybe she will look at herself a bit and see her contribution, but I certainly wouldn't count on it or hold my breath waiting for her to take ownership (not unless you want to die). BTW, despite my thinking that my ex didn't have much deep seated anger for me, I noted that in an e-mail to a divorced "friend" that she lashed out at me for indicating that the dog was mine--even though I said it jokingly (her note to friend..."he loves me, bitch! That felt good!") So my message is that I think the anger and resentment is there....maybe we see varying amounts of the iceberg depending on the X's personality. Mine I think shows only the very tip. Hopefully yours shows you a lot of it.