I see a lot of "boulder-throwing" on the part of your W. She is taking her own frustrations out on you. I agree with Wes a little on validation versus defending. But I have been where you are, when boulders start flying at you and you try to dodge them the best you can. I mean, when pebbles are thrown I can validate, but when I am surprised with a boulder I dont know what to do. I am terible at thinking on my feet.
Your W seems to be very pent up and bottling a lot of negative feelings inside her. Perhaps letting the venom out by being gentle and validating is in order. You can even engineer a talk where she lets loose and you validate your a$$ off? Just change the dynamic from the past month of so. Your current trajectory with your W seems inevitable but a little negative. Your GAL may not be sufficient and it even seems to be p'ing your W off? I dont know, what do you think?
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
