I must say you certainly stand by your beliefs. I admire that you stood your ground. Is there quite a bit of hostility from ex or am I just reading that into it? It sounds like essentially a gripe fest with a crabby voice. I can tell that masculine book did you all sorts of good. You handled her swing of emotions and hopefully it will pay dividends. If not, you didn't compromise anything.
I don't know if I'd take the fact that she's "giving" you more time with your son as a sign that she wants you tied up. It could mean that she wants more free time for herself and you are the easy solution for babysitter.
Gabe, I'm not sure in any of that you validated anything. Sounded more like you defended yourself and didn't indicate that you heard what she was trying to say. Did you at least indicated you know where she is coming from? I primarily want to suggest that you arrange a neutral ground and suggest to your ex that you discuss rationally some of these child rearing issues. Maybe get some of the big things out of the way, such as religion. Obviously when he is with you and you are going to church he'll have to come along, but present your points in a calm and rational way, listen to her opinions and validate. You don't have to agree, but I suggest showing her that you are an improved conversationalist.
In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years. Abraham Lincoln
It is hard to fail, but it is worse never to have tried to succeed. Theodore Roosevelt
