Yeah, my W is the hottest woman in town to me too (and I live in a college town)! I even love every flaw in her features, it just makes her who she is and it is familiar and comforting.
Gabriel, your comments on my thread were very insightful. There were two that I can vouch for:
1. MLC can be infectious- When my own WAW dropped Hiroshima on me two years ago, she was spending a lot of time with a male colleage of hers who was going through the replay stage of MLC. Also, there were another friend whose marriage was falling apart due to it as well. 2. The thing about identity work that the MLCer has to do is absolutely spot on. In fact, in Brehony's book, based on Jung, this is identified the central feature of MLC. It is a battle between the "shadow self" (the part of the personality that was suppressed) and the persona (the part of the personality that was adopted by the MLCer for public consumption. Now, in midlife , when they are questioning who they truly are the two aspects of their psyche (the "shadow" and the persona) battle it out in full public view. I have actually seen this happen with my W. I will try to record what my observations are regarding my W's "shadow" and her "persona" on my thread in due course.
Take care,
UD
The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
