Several comments. I am behind on catching up with a lot of posts here because of heavy work plu a lot of [censored] in my sitch with my parents getting involved. I am trying to sort that calamity out.
Anywho, you are handling this phase of interactions with your W really well. Sometimes these times when things are really crappy test the mettle of your innermost feelings, (both hers and yours). Remember that the whole coldness thing from the WASs is first and foremost a defence mechanism. It is a clumsy way for them to put on a "persona" (sort of like when you are in a hurry and you just grab something out of the closet and rush out and then you discover that you are smiling sheepishly at this hot chick at the grocery store or wherever because you grabbed a shirt with a big hole from which your armpit hair is sticking out). I have learnt to handle those personas (I have mentioned one of those that my wife puts on in my thread a while back) by just being breezy and pleasant and ratchet up my confidence.
Gabriel, there are a lot of things happening in your life right now. You are handling it with the usual grace. Tread softly with your W. She is stressed out too. Sometimes I feel the WASs feel stressed by the fact that they cannot be as supportive and sympathetic as THEY would like because they dont want to give you hope and also because their brains are shot with stress, fatigue, hormones, whatever.
Anyway, I am reading this book called "Awakening at midlife" by Kathleen Brehony. I highly recommend it for anyone dealing with MLC. It has helped me a lot.
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The 3 laws of DBing:
1. PMA is critical to DBing.
2. Since drop in WAW's PMA leads to drop in LBS's PMA and vice-versa detachment is critical.
3. Validate to raise WAW's PMA and GAL to raise LBS's.
