T, his chances are actually much better - probably in the 60-40% range. I'm staying positive.
Ellie, that neurotransmitter idea is fascinating. Never thought about it that way. She did a round of zoloft about 2 yrs ago in our M, and I thought I saw an artificial "kick" to her mood last Jan-Feb that suggested a new round of anti-depressants, but nothing ever came up with my insurance, so I doubt it. Sounds like you're saying this might be a typical imbalance found in WAS, similar to depression but more complex, with dopamine influencing learning, attention, and emotion. Hmmmm - very interesting!
Regardless, just expecting her to be self-centered helped me deaden the blow a bit. It was more of registered, "Oh yeah. Gotta protect that part of my heart from her." I do the same with key interactions, activities, and the spiritual beliefs that I'm trying to impart to S5. I know she'll discount/attack/minimize on certain topics, so why put it out there.
Eventually, it will come back to taking yet another chance at being vulnerable, but I'm much more comfortable doing that regarding only me, as opposed to bringing in other loved ones.
