No offense taken. His odds are tough, but as I noted before, he's beaten C before. I'm helping him look into a variety of options, with surgery coming first.
Went to work out at the gym this afternoon. After lifting weights for some time, I noticed W on a stair machine. I went over to say hi, taking Wes' "friend" attitude with me. She bristled, and seemed to want to not talk, doing the high schooler, eye-rolling thing. In the recent past, she's spoken with resentment about my self-care efforts. This is similar to our M, where good things that happened to me often were used by W to either beat herself up or to get on me about not attending to her enough.
I kept a semi-positive attitude and said goodbye and continued with my workout. When I left, W was still there. Even tho the interaction wasn't the best, I was glad I approached her, as now she has my friendly approach to think about. My one regret was that I mentioned a convo I had with my Dad, briefly noting my concern, with W minimizing "Oh, it's not that bad. At least he doesn't have just a 5% chance." Wow. I will not be bringing him up to her again. That one cut deep. Yet I know it was the selfish WAS talk that I should have expected.
