Have you tried getting your W to a MC? I was planning on going to one anyways and had mentioned that to my H that I had an appointment booked. His whole theory is that "if you can't fix your own problems, then your problems are too big to be fixed by anyone." I told him that I was having a hardt time dealing with this, and the C was more or less to help me be a better single parents for our kids sake. Next thing you know, H is sittin beside me at the MC's. We went to one meeting. IT was more for H to hear from an outsider that the marriage was worth saving.
One thing that I kept doing too was validating the fact that the old marriage was over. And what ever happened needed to be a new relationship/marriage. I didn't want the mistakes of our old M being brought into the new relationship. It was hard to remember why we got together in the first place, but today we're still doing that.
I see when little things are old behaviour material, we quickly stop it and do something else.
Hold onto all the babysteps. Her comment is a good one. She's telling you there's a chance. Next time something good happenes to her, reward her with flowers or a gift or something. Try thinking back to when you first met, what brought to to the marriage?
I saved my marriage and so can you....Its all about positive thinking...
