I find myself switching theories regarding my situation as mush as I change socks, and sometimes I frustrate myself. I am however starting to believe in something here and would like to get your opinions.
I had previously posted that W had started drinking alcohol quite a bit as the onset of this situation. That is not quite accurate. She has always drank and before would go through periods of doing more than less and less than more. Before her mom’s death earlier this year, however, she had really cut down.
Since her mom’s passing and the EA/PA, she started drinking quite a bit again. I think I mentioned earlier that before she moved out she was doing a shot at 5:30 in the morning the minute she got up. I also discovered her hiding a bottle in a glove in her bag. I know that this is real serious stuff. Although she has moved out, I know for a fact that nothing has changed in that area. As recently as last night, she became intoxicated in her apartment while Ks were with her.
Today, I had the opportunity to speak with a lady at my office who told me that she was a recovering alcoholic who had been sober for 18 years. She said that she had lost her husband and job and was homeless living under a bridge when her H came to her and suggested that she might need some help. She checked herself into a 90 day program and has been dry since.
I explained my sitch to her and she believes wholeheartedly that 99.9% of these issues are caused by her alcoholism, not that her alcoholism is not caused by the issues. She believes that if W were to get help and stop drinking, the A would end and there would be a very good possibility that she would end up back home with me. We discussed intervention and other possible scenarios to prompt something to happen.
I would love to hear from anyone having similar issues or experience as to what might be done. Perhaps between all of us, we can think of something “outside the box.” Thanks for indulging in my long post.
