And Burg, I saw one of your other responses today on another sitch, are you doing o.k.?

Yeah, I'm good. I appreciate the concern. I assume you're referring to my response to ILF in SAHd's thread. I read that thing five times and it just seemed so the opposite of helpful. Maybe I snapped a little, but it felt right!

I also wanted to let you know, you inspired me yesterday. The mediator had told us to get a budget put together. W immediately turned to me because I've been handling the finances (loosely speaking) for awhile now. The mediator told her that it's important in this process, for her own dignity and self-worth, that she do her own budget and get everything figured out for herself, and that I should do my own as well. She agreed. But a couple of days ago she asked if I'd done the budget yet.
Me: "No. But you're supposed to do your own, right?"
W: "Yes, but you are too."
I really didn't want to until she'd gone through it herself to find out where we really are. But who knows when that would happen? So following your lead, I went ahead and put together a first cut last night and let her know. We'll see how long it takes her to do something with it, but I'm glad it's out of the way.

So thank you!


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