OK, so I spent an hour with DB Coach Chuck this morning and I calmed down quite a bit. I will not yet do the after the last resort technique, but will still consider it in December.
I will continue to DB, to stand strong even in the face of her attacks and mood swings, and continue to pray that one day she will wake up and realize what she is missing.
I will also share all of our financial info with her and be prepared for her to blow her top. Might as well get it over with sooner than later.