Walkingback, I can’t thank you enough for following my sitch and for replying so honestly. You mentioned that you saw some similarities with you and my W. Please keep reading my posts and relate ANY advice you can.
A couple of more things about my W: Her mom passed away in January and I truly believe that was 90% of what brought all of this on. There were several issues there and to date she has not dealt with them. Within just a couple of weeks, she met the OM and began the affair. Unfortunately, I believe it is a full blown EA as well as PA. Although she might have broken off with him for a very short time a few months ago, it is back on big time. When she told me she had filed for divorce last week, I said, “I know you have developed strong feelings for him.” She replied, “No, not really.” I do not know if that is true or she is trying to fool herself. Also, I truly believe that she has re-written our marital history in order to justify her affair, not that our marital history caused it. The fact is, overall, we did have a very good marriage.
Another factor that I am facing is the fact that her alcohol intake has increased dramatically to the point where I saw her doing shots when she woke up first thing in the morning and discovered she was hiding a bottle in her bag. Granted, this was before she moved out in June, but I do not believe someone that has developed that kind of problem can simply stop at will. Also, I have been with her in the last few weeks when she was bombed off her gourd, (on a Monday night.)
You also mentioned being depressed. I believe my W is in full depression.
Regarding the divorce, she emailed me last week that at one point “we were exceptional, and I hope we can be again.” She meant after our divorce. Truly a case of having one’s cake and eating it to.
Walkingback, was it then your H started seeing the OW that you started thinking about going back, or was it something else? I guess me, and several others here, are looking for a miracle answer. Any more help you can give would be appreciated.
As I said before, please throw some questions at us guys about your sitch. We will do our best to help you out as well.
